What men
really want in woman before proposing them for marriage, these include:
1.
Attractiveness
/ Beauty: Beauty, they say is in the eye of the beholder. What attracts one man
may not attract another. Beauty is elastic but in tangle. Beauty can come in
form of character or physical features. Some people value character more than
physical features. So, a woman (wife to be) should make herself attractive in
both character and appearance. If God created you to be slim or fat, tall or
short, fair or dark, your beauty can come from it. Most women enhance their
natural beauty and attractiveness by applying the right lipstick, eyelashes,
nail polish, perfumes and deodorants. That is why they pay special attention to
their hair, face, fingers, and clothing. e.t .c most men want to marry a wife
they can be proud of in terms of her beauty and attractiveness, a woman they
can take to social functions. Some so-called “born-again” sisters lose their
chance of marriage even within their church because they no longer make
themselves attractive to man. If you look shabby, dirty, grubby, gloomy and
generally unattractive all the time, no man will propose you for marriage. Do
something now; look good, look responsible and presentable. Be neat, pleasant,
always smile and be friendly.
2.
Good
Character: I have already said that most men value character above facial
beauty. Majority of men want a girl who has good character. If you combine
facial beauty with good character, you would be in high demand for marriage.
Elements of a good character include:
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Being
pleasant, friendly and respectful to people.
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Capacity
to be submissive to husband.
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Being
hardworking not lazy or lousy.
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Being
trustworthy so as to be good confidant to husband.
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Ability
to forgive easily and forget wrongs done to her.
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Capacity
to accept her mistakes and apologize (Ability to say “I am sorry”).
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Being
peaceful and patient not violent and quarrelsome.
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Being
considerate. Not too demanding (Financially and materially).
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Being
honest (does not lies).
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Does
not steal (contented with what he has).
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Appreciative
of what people do for her (know how to say “Thank You”).
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Being
humble.
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Being
humorous and witty (capacity to joke and laugh).
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Being
God- fearing.
3.
Education /intelligence: Most men now want to
marry an educated woman (lady). Nobody wants an illiterate anymore. They wants
woman (ladies) who can think, wives who can discuss issues and problems and
find solutions to them. Men wants woman who can be employable to help sustain
their families financially. But if you didn’t have the opportunity of a formal
education you can train yourself informally. Learn something and become an
expert in it. Education is not only through the university.
4.
Good
homemaker: home-making is very important in marriage. The essentials includes:
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Ability
to cook well
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Ability
to take good care of guests and comfort oneself well in their presence.
Some women (wife to be or
already be) does not know how to cook. They grew up in a home where maids or
stewards did all the cooking’s. During courtship, many prefer to be taken to a
nearby fast foods or restaurants to eat. The truth is that most men want to
marry a woman (wives) who knows how to cook. Most married man like to eat food
cooked by their wives. Learn to cook, learn to keep the house clean, and learn
to manage any amount of money given to you.
5.
Age: This is a very important factor in marriage.
Many men want to marry woman (ladies)n who are young in age ,especially between
the age of 18 - 29. They believe that woman in this age bracket may not have
committed many abortions; may still have good chances of bearing children and
may be submissive to a man. This may not be so. And that explains why some men
prefer the older women from 30 – 45 because of their maturity and financial
viability.
6.
Other
Considerations: some men base their choice on some primordial considerations
such as tribe, religion, profession, complexion, height, etc. In this category,
religion and tribe play a dominant role in marriages in Nigeria. Most men would
prefer to marry from their own tribe or religion.
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