WHY LATE MARRIAGE
The reasons for being unmarried or
late marriage are as follows:
Some people have the notion that a
woman must find a husband if she is beautiful; has wealthy parents, good
education and good job; is quite brilliant and intelligent; lives in a good apartment,
drive a good car, a member of the church choir and well known in the church.
These qualities, as good and enviable
as they seem, are not passport to the altar. There are many reasons why a lady
may remain unmarried for long time. These include:
1.
BEING TOO CHOOSY: Some ladies had several suitors
but they couldn't pick any one of them for one reason or the other. While
generally, many other ladies are just waiting for men who are rich and
handsome, educated and born again. Some also give other excuses such as they
are too young to marry or that they are still in school or want to start work
before marriage. Many young ladies have lost the opportunity of marrying their
God – given husbands by being too selective or undecided or unserious about
getting married or waiting for ‘’prince charming’’ that would never come!
2.
BEING TOO OLD: Because most ladies are too choosy or selective or undecided as we said
above; or they want to finish their university education and get a job before
considering marriage, they swift pass the sweet sixteen age (18-23) that
attracts suitors most. As they move down the ladder of age, they now seem too
old to eligible bachelors who want to marry young ladies.
3.
BEING TOO DEMANDING OR EXPENSIVE TO MAINTAIN:
Many ladies are too demanding and money conscious. They have very high
taste. Right from the first date, they show in words and deeds that they are
damn expensive. If you take them to a restaurant or fast foods, they eat beyond
your financial capacity. Such ladies are gold diggers. Men who are looking for
life partners run away from such ladies. Men want to marry women (ladies) who
are considerate and easy to maintain.
4.
HAVING A BAD CHARACTER: It is unfortunate
that many girls (ladies) do not have any home training. Their upbringing is
nothing to write home about. As they grow up, they exhibit terrible behaviours
that irritate men. Some are strong-headed, loquacious, quarrelsome, violent or
vindictive. Some are lazy and lousy, yet gluttonous. Some are dishonest and
cannot tell the truth. A marriageable woman (lady) must have a noble character
that is beyond reproach. She is courteous, cultured, respectful, humble,
submissive, modest and homely.
5.
BEING UNATTRACTIVE: Some ladies (women)
make themselves very unattractive to men. For instance, some so called born
again ladies dress so shabbily and look ugly that even their Christian brothers
don’t feel like marrying them. Some of the ladies claim that they are married
to Jesus and therefore do not need to look appealing and attractive to any man.
You need to look pretty, neat and smart to be noticed by men.
6.
BEING FLIRTATIOUS: Many ladies (women) have
remained unmarried because they sleep with any man that comes their ways. They
offer their bodies to any man who has cash to offer. They are too easy to woo
to bed. They hardly present any resistance as long as the offer is right! They
spend days with different men in hotels even in their vicinity. They do not
realise that people watch them and give negative reports about them. Most men
prefer to marry ladies (women) who are relatively chaste and pure and less
exposed to sexual relationships.
7.
BEING SICK: Many ladies have lost the chance of being
married because they have certain health problems that scare the men. These
include; HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis, leprosy, epilepsy, mental disorder, skin
disease, body, mouth or virginal odour, sickle cell disease etc.
8.
A SORDID PAST: Many ladies (women) have
terrible pasts. They lived recklessly. They messed up their lives in many ways.
Series of abortions that were known to people around them. Babies that were
born and thrown into the toilet. Even when such ladies become ‘’born again’’
they are haunted by their past deeds. It has always backfired for many women.
9.
BEING TOO DESPERATE FOR MARRIAGE: Some ladies
(women) have allowed desperation to destroy their self – esteem and self –
worth. They believe they are getting old or their friends are all hooked and
then want a life partner too by any means, fair or foul. As a result of their
desperation, they now think that every relationship, every hello or hi, must
lead to marriage. Such ladies literally beg men to marry them. This makes them
cheap, less, less attractive and scares men away.
10.
THE SUGAR DADDY SYNDROME: Many young ladies (women) stick with rich married men and
waste their prime years.
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